Selasa, Juni 28

Chicken soup for the soul

Five Lessons About How To Treat People
— Author Unknown


1. First Important Lesson - “Know The Cleaning Lady”

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: “What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?”

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

“Absolutely,” said the professor. “In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say “hello.”

I’ve never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

2. Second Important Lesson - “Pickup In The Rain”
One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.

A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man’s door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home.

A special note was attached. It read: “Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband’s bedside just before he passed away. God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.”

Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3. Third Important Lesson - “Remember Those Who Serve”
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. “How much is an ice cream sundae?” he asked. “50¢,” replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.

“Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?” he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. “35¢!” she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins. “I’ll have the plain ice cream,” he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.

When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn’t have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.


4. Fourth Important Lesson - “The Obstacles In Our Path”

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand - “Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.”

5. Fifth Important Lesson - “Giving When It Counts”

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year-old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, “Yes, I’ll do it if it will save her.”

As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, “Will I start to die right away?”.

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.

Minggu, Juni 26

jilbab

Satu perbualan sama teman Indonesiaku. Diolah sedikit biar nampak kemas.


Hijab
Di Malaysia ramai gak pake jilbab?
Ya, ramai
Oh.

Penasaran menggamit hati mahu nanya lagi
Menurutmu wanita berjilbab itu seperti apa?- tanyaku.
Manis.
Cantik.
Sopan.

Senyuman terukir.
Jilbab bukan sekadar itu.
Jilbab adalah manifestasi iman
Bukan sekadar fesyen

Maksudmu?

Ya, kini hijab seperti terlihat fesyen
Wanita bertudung hanya sekadar tudung
Tidak menurut syariat.

Syariat?

Ya, syariat.
Tuhan, dengan segala ilmuNya telah berfirman


“dan katakanlah kepada para perempuan yang beriman, agar menjaga pandangannya, dan memelihara kemaluannya, janganlah menampakkan perhiasannya(auratnya) kecuali yang biasa terlihat. Dan hendaklah mereka menutupkan kain kerudung ke dadanya…” (An-Nur 24:31)

Makanya, wanita bertudung juga harus punya iman
Bukan sekadar fesyen
Harus menutup bahagian dada
Tudungnya juga tidak jarang
Yang akan menampakkan batang leher

Jadi kita tidak bisa berfesyen? Itu katamu?

Tidak. Islam tidak melarang berfesyen.
Sekiranya bertudung sudah menurut syariat,
Fesyen apapun menjadi halal
Intipatinya harus yang mengikut syariat
Seperti termaktub pada Kalamullah itu.

Oh begitu.

*Senyum*

Nanti aku tanya lagi bisa?
Ya, bisalah Vee....

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nota : mode mahu menulis tapi kesempatan itu sekejap sahaja.

Kamis, Juni 16

Sensitif atau kurang sensitif

Kebiasaan saya kini, hari Khamis jam 12 tengah malam, pasti saya tercongok di depan televisyen. Mahu menonton siri Trauma di TV2. Saya sukakan profesi paramedik, banyak ke tempat kemalangan untuk merawat pesakit.

Dalam satu sirinya melibatkan seorang wanita Muslim yang mengalami keadaan yang disebut malignant hypertension. Tekanan darahnya memang tinggi. Pesakit sedang solat di surau ketika itu. Sewaktu paramedik tiba, yang semestinya non-muslim, si suami berharap isterinya tidak disentuh. Namun, keadaan sangat genting. Mereka berlari mendapatkan pesakit wanita Muslim itu dan berjanji akan sedaya upaya menjaga privasi pesakit. Menarik kerana adanya sensitiviti dari mereka, prosedur yang dilakukan benar-benar menjaga privasi pesakit.

Setibanya di hospital, pesakit terbabit dirawat oleh para doktor. Privasi pesakit tidak dijaga dan mengakibatkan suami pesakit terkilan. Ironi mungkin. Kedua ahli paramedik tersebut berjumpa terus ketua jabatan kecemasan untuk menyarankan agar kita menghormati agama yang dianuti pesakit dan kepercayaannya. Di akhir cerita, mereka melawat pesakit Muslim tersebut sambil memberikan alas untuk mereka yang hadir di situ untuk solat.

Sekurang-kurangnya mereka non-muslim lebih-lebih sensitif berbanding kita yang muslim ini. Apa kes pada karikatur yang menghina hukum Allah? Kurang sensitifkah kita? Seenaknya menghina sedemikian. Mind you, apa yang dijaja oleh sekian banyak ulama bukanlah dari leluhur kata hati mereka melainkan telah tertulis di Kalamullah sejak lebih 1400 tahun dahulu. Dan seenaknya mereka berkata ia tidak relevan.

Ia relevan dan akan tetap relevan.

rencam

Susah dan senang
sahabat yang tak mahu kalah

bila tuhan berikan susah
kita mahu senang

bila tuhan berikan senang
kita mahu susah

kufur nikmat benar kita ini


pelik dan aneh

bila susah, aku merasa senang
bila senang, aku merasa susah
aku mahu susah biar aku senang
jangan bikin senang nanti aku susah

lapang-lapang racun waktuku
sibuk-sibuk penawar bagiku
benarlah kata pujangga
hanya orang sibuk punya masa
tapi tidaklah sesibuk pak menteri ya!

rasminya sudah bergelar pelajar tahun akhir
mahu hidup susah biar senang kemudian
telan sahajalah apa yang pahit itu
sebab hasilnya itu semanis madu
benarlah kata orang (kata orang lagi)
untuk mendapatkan 10 persen kebahagiaan
90 persen adalah mendasar pada usaha kita.

tiada sia-sia
tiada rugi apa-apanya

terbaiklah untuk setahun ini!

eh,

sibukkah?


itu terlalu subjektif

ampun  maaf andai taklifan itu tak terpenuhi dengan baik
gomen~

Senin, Juni 13

Kamu

Salam sayang Kak Nur,

Alwaqtu juz-un minal 'ilaj

Waktu adalah bahagian dari terapi.


Semoga, semoga itu menyembuhkanmu.
Mohon dengan amat sangat.